It can be so hard to admit that we’ve pursued a path that isn’t quite right for us, can’t it? Especially if this path has been rather publicly taken. Sometimes it can seem as though the world values decision and action above all else. “Pushing on through” is the recommended course, while reflection and ultimately changing your mind may be judged as weak, a “cop out”.
Have you ever had to make this kind of tricky decision?
I have, quite recently.
You may know that for most of this year I have been very involved in the creation, planning and promotion of a workshop called “Reflect-Release-Renew”, which eventually took place at the end of April. Six stressed and weary souls valued their chance to take some time out, try new techniques and focus on refreshing their energy and optimism. They thought it was “Great – you created a safe environment, respected individual’s space and offered a day of mindful contemplation, great for recharging the batteries!” and also that “It was a wonderful, relaxing day with two lovely caring ladies” among “…a lovely group of people.” We were so glad that they took so much from it – they were a fantastic bunch, who proved themselves willing to engage with everything we offered.
But, after a lot of reflection, I have changed my mind and decided that I will not be running any further workshops.
I believe that you have to do what makes your heart sing and I have come to understand that my strongly introvert tendency means that working with a group tends to make my brain addle, not my heart sing. I have finally accepted that lesson! I am delighted to say, however, that my colleague Sue Baker of It’s Never Too Late will be taking the workshop idea forward and I know it will be wonderful – her gentle warmth is beautifully supportive and reassuring, and her enthusiasm for EFT and energy work is inspirational.
From now on, I shall be honouring my natural preference, which is to work one to one. It is the greatest privilege to sit in a room with another person and hold space for them as they share thoughts and feelings. To help them defuse painful memories so they can leave behind old patterns of thought and behaviour and begin to create a new way of being in the world. I can think of nothing that makes my heart sing more joyously than this!
One area in which this gentle process works so beautifully is the Bird Phobia work – the delicate unravelling of the specific personal links between the sight or sound of a bird and a hair-trigger response of utter panic. No two people take the same journey into a phobia, so it makes complete sense to me that the road out of one needs to be tailored to that individual alone.
Imagine the freedom felt by Ellie, who has just booked her stay in a Caribbean resort renowned for its birdlife. She’s even considering having a photo taken with a parrot on the beach – quite a change from the girl who used to take an erratic, zig zag path round town to avoid pigeons! Or just look, here, at the joy on Alison’s face, as she and Mozart get acquainted at Birdworld, some months after our initial session. (NB Trigger warning – photos of birds)
If that kind of freedom appeals to you or someone you know, I will have availability for a Bird Phobia client in mid-June. You can get in touch here to find out more – where would you go, if your fears weren’t getting in your way?
And I’d be so interested to know if you’ve ever found yourself following a path that didn’t feel right for you. What did you do? Did you end up changing your mind – and how did people react to your decision? Your experiences might spark something for another reader, so please do join the conversation by leaving a comment, below.